With the vast differences in personalities, politics, perspectives, mental health and psychological conditions this is quite a challenge for many.

The challenge is not because some are bad, nor because they can’t get along well with others, but because many know within them selves that they just do not fit into some social circles of some groups of people.

I truly believe there is a very large group of shut-ins that do not want to be seen, they want to remain safe and invisible they attend churches online where they can remain anonymous.

These shut-ins have no physical disability preventing them from walking into a church but there are great wounds they deal with in their psyche, and their psychological armor prevents them from exposing themselves to environments that challenge their worthiness because of their past, backward ways or introverted behavior!

(Neither the pluses or the minuses are personally at fault, magnets do what they do!)

An example I like to use in observance of the cohesive nature of people are magnets, they can look exactly the same, do the same job, but if not in synch, they will repel each other rather then being drawn together.

The magnets are not physically different or defective they are just positioned in a way that causes the indifference rather the attraction.

Often we think that our way of thinking about something, our position on an issue, our understanding, our feelings is the right standard and thinking, whereby we analyze others and decide if they are even or odd.

Without wisdom and understanding we might judge their mindset because of how they appear, how a person behaves, how they did or didn’t respond, how we think they should respond to our voice, our preaching, or teaching etc.

An introvert can be doing cartwheels on the inside and appear calm outwardly.

As the small child once said when he was scolded by his parents and made to sit still, He said, “I’m sitting down on the outside but I’m still running on the inside.”

That may be true to us in the Church in more ways then we realize!

If an introvert is in your church attending a service, you can dump cold water on them by telling them they are not worthy to be part of the worship unless they quickly and obediently jump up and down and perform some demonstration as the extroverts do so easily.

If the Spirit of Yahshua doesn’t cause them to break out in a shout, to do this, only because a man shamed them, is really sad.

Why?

Because they are honoring the man the chear leader, not Yahweh, and the reason for their response is because they are mentally and psychologically charged to avoid conflict at all cost and will endure being manipulated perhaps for an hour or so rather then experience the spotlight of shame!

If a person doesn’t jump up and down at a sports event it is no small wonder they don’t at a church events either.

If you shame them because of who they are, you might not have a second opportunity ever again.

An introvert will over analyze things to a fault and being forced to perform extraverted behaviors or suffer being shamed can feel like a personal attack to their sincerety!

A person may also have serious health conditions they struggle to conceal, mobility issues etc. and maybe that doesn’t translate to jumping up and down and running for them, maybe they do well to stand for an hour?

Yes it’s true, a lot of the people you see walking around are doing it because, they are not willing to accept or are afraid if they sit down in a mobility chair they might be stuck there for good or they might be shamed for it because other don’t know their true condition!

An introvert doesn’t want to be noticed, or labeled the buffoon or different person in the room, they don’t like undue attention, they don’t want to be called out in public or made the center of attention. The worst is when they are shamed publicly or feel they are being rejected by the group they are amongst.

This type of character may represent perfectly who they really are at heart, or may be conditional, a symptom of a problem from their past, it may be connected to past events, traumas, childhood, shaming etc.

Some are introverts because of past traumas in their life having enormous mental or psychological effect!

There are also more severe mental challenges, which lead to non-social behaviors, breakdown in communication, and even more difficult behavioral problems such as with being co-dependent or Bipolar etc.

Some things cannot be worked through easily, especially if there is no desire to fix them, or if communication is not on the same track or channel.

Two people can believe they are talking and working on the same problem but be passing one another up because in reality they are in two different lanes when trying to put the problem into proper perspective, to understand the problem and work to fix the problem.

I remember a time when it couldn’t be fixed it was just called a devil or demon possession and the cure was that the demon needed to be cast out of the person.

Not every problem is a demon, when you make every problem a demon the ones that are not acknowledged as being made whole, those individuals, or that person, is the one demonized, they become the rejected and everyone, sometimes at the behest of the Pastor takes a wide birth around them to avoid them and their entire family is stigmatized.

Adults are just grown children who can now do bigger damage!

If an individual didn’t get what they needed in childhood, the consequences goes with them as adults.

Thinking our perspective and thoughts are the only correct perspectives and thought, about how another individual feels, by their represented performance, is often incorrect to one of the two parties involved.

Thinking we know the right behavior or way an introvert or extravert should perform for us, is where we come into conflict with, what is preference, and what is the truth!.

A staunch introvert will not feel comfortable if everybody is an extravert and condemns the introvert personality of others around them as being ungrateful, unholy and unworthy!.

If there is mental or psychological issues where people over analyze things being said around them, or they hear only a part of conversations of others in church, they may feel like they are the subject of the conversation, even though they really are not, they may assume the worse that they are a topic of gossiping, or that they are considered an odd ball by other people etc…

We must attempt to communicate better with each other and be aware to include those around us in the important conversations that unite us, instead of dividing us.

We as a people need to learn to look to the need of those outside of ourselves, to do better, to love better also.

If a mother and father can find ways to love a difficult but precious child with all of these problems, and more, surely the Church can do no less today with Yahweh’s children.

The spirit of Yahshua is drawing people many with hills, mountains and problems, from the four corners of the earth to come home before the bridegroom comes again to audit his house and His kingdom!

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